Heart and Soul: Forgiveness
Itâ€™s one of the nastiest things to ever infiltrate the hearts of people and our planet! Our incredibly strong sense of entitlement is one of the sources of it, but more legitimately, itâ€™s the result of deep, unresolved pain. Unforgiveness, is the key to the beginnings of wars, retaliations, and terrorism, and can be seen in every area of society. It transcends affluence, and is deeply rooted in poverty, its presence known in every country and is often directed at a neighbor or family member who didnâ€™t follow through with a promise, or offended us in some way.
The biggest problem with it though, is the fact that it keeps the one harbouring unforgiveness, in its own special, warped prison. The person who becomes so hurt, who canâ€™t forgive, eventually becomes entitled to their feelings, and uses it as a means to gain pity and some sort of backing from other parties who had the same kinds of things happen to them. Sorrow loves company, and people who live in unforgiveness, love to have as many people with them in their pit of grief as they can get.
I was once one of those individuals. I knew what being violated was all about. I knew what it was like to live in pain and try to bury it with all kinds of things that never worked. I thought I was entitled to the rage that I began to live in, and allowed it to be the thing of power that protected me from any more pain. The problem was… It didnâ€™t affect anyone but me. All those people I was mad at, or couldnâ€™t forgive, have long since, walked past whatever the offence was… some are even in the grave… they just donâ€™t really care what I think about them.
A friend of mine said, â€śI really showed them how to hurt!â€ť The reality is… I was the one in prison… they walked free. I know many who have had horrific things happen to them. I canâ€™t begin to imagine what it was like for them. Iâ€™ll never judge anyone for the way theyâ€™ve responded to pain that was afflicted on them, but Iâ€™m really intrigued by those who find the strength to choose to walk in a lifestyle of forgiveness. Those are the ones who live long, happy lives. They are the people who seem to have discovered some sort of freedom that brings tremendous healing in their lives.
There is an individual I know well, who has lived in unforgiveness for so long, that they use it as an excuse for every disappointment that has ever happened in their life. Theyâ€™ve passed by so many life-changing opportunities as theyâ€™ve blamed others for their lack of ability. The truth is, their pain has crippled them to believe â€śThey canâ€™tâ€ť, rather than finding freedom from unforgiveness, to empower them to â€śI canâ€ť. I know that pain is real… I spent several decades there myself, but I found the source of forgiveness. When I was forgiven, and was able to forgive myself of so many things… forgiving others became a whole lot easier.
This week, we have a concert with Heather Williams at the Dow Centre, who will tell her story of pain and forgiveness… Sheâ€™ll be sharing her powerful music, voice, and story… why donâ€™t you come and check it out… weâ€™re putting it on for the benefit of our youth who are in so much pain, they actually inflict even more on themselves… itâ€™s time to stop the bleeding… itâ€™s time to find some forgiveness… Saturday, August 11th, 7:30…